Fayzal Mahamed believes he should be allowed to masturbate for his disabled son Mustafa
Mustafa was born with profound cerebral palsy and profound intellectual disability
At the age of 17 Mahamed noticed his son entering his “sexual awakening”
Mahamed claims that what he is doing is medical treatment not sexual abuse
There is no shortage of disturbing stories on the Web, but the story of Fayzal Mahamed and his severely disabled son Mustafa, who has cerebral palsy, is one of the most disturbing.
Naturally, due to the cerebral palsy, Mahamed has to help his son do everything. However, Mahamed may have taken his role as a parent and caregiver past any kind of rational thinking.
On May 21, 2016, Mahamed, who works in the Department of Humanities at the University of Johannesburg, started a blog dedicated to him masturbating his “profoundly disabled” son.
Why I Masturbate My Son
In the one blog post on his website “Why I Masturbate My Son,” Mahamed claims that he and his son’s story is one of “recognition of his sexuality and sexual expression” for those deemed “voiceless.”
Mahamed explains that it all began in South Africa 30 years ago when his ex-wife gave birth to Mustafa, who was later diagnosed with profound cerebral palsy.
Mustafa is described as having “limited motor control and cannot voluntarily move his muscles and as a result, cannot walk or sit and is practically bedridden.” His IQ is well below 40. It is so low that it may be immeasurable. His intellectual disability is known as “profound intellectual and multiple disability,” or “PIMD.”
Mustafa was also stricken with profound intellectual disability, and no ability to “verbally communicate through any language and his ability to learn seems very limited.”
Despite all the medical obstacles Mustafa is facing, Mahamed claims he is very healthy. He can sufficiently feed himself and sleeps well. Mahamed claims that he expresses different “emotional feelings” through a variety of sounds.
Although Mustafa’s sight is difficult to gauge, he does recognize familiar people around him, for example, he often smiles or laugh when I call out his name or whistle a particular tune and response vocally to the care and affection I provide to him. Mustafa’s hearing, smell and sense of taste all seem normal and he loves the outdoors as his eyes would light up if he is taken to a new environment and would shout with excitement. As a result of the variety of communication other than a verbal language, Mustafa sufficiently manages to express his physical and emotional feelings.
Mahamed also claims that Mustafa’s PIMD will not allow him to live in any form of independent living situation, placing him entirely dependent on his father. Mustafa has no autonomy or capacity to understand what is happening to him. In fact, Mahamed admits that his son is not able to “make any decisions concerning his health and care nor is he able to provide informed consent to any of the care provided for by me.” He is “legally incompetent,” which makes the next part of this disturbing story extremely concerning.
Mahamed goes on to say that at the age of 17 Mustafa began to “express his sexual feelings” whenever he was taking a bath or having his diaper changed by means of having an erect penis. Mustafa’s erections were persistent, and Mahamed claimed he witnessed his son’s “body pulling stiff,” which he took as possible “agitation or confusion.”
Mahamed claims that when he first noticed his son’s “sexual awakening” he said to himself, “Hang on, what should I do about my son’s sexual expression?”
After searching for answers on what to do about his son’s sexual awakening, Mahamed claims to have discovered a consensus from professional opinions that “all persons with disabilities are sexual human beings and have equal rights to sexual expression.”
I also discovered that the most prevalent form of sexual expression for individuals with severe or profound “mental retardation” was masturbation and that masturbatory expression was considered to be both therapeutic and important for the overall growth and development of individuals with disability.
The advice Mahamed found said that masturbation could be “self-practiced,” or “provided by a partner.” If neither of those offers was an option, a sex therapist or a sex worker was suggested.
Mahamed admits that all the professional advice he could find “ignored and excluded those persons with disabilities who could not understand or provide consent.” In other words, there was not a professional who would say it was okay to molest a disabled person that did not understand what was happening.
Due to Mustafa’s cerebral palsy, he was not able to masturbate on his own. Being in South Africa, Mahamed claims that finding a sex therapist or professional sex worker is impossible. That is when Mahamed decided to provide “therapeutic masturbation” to his son.
Mahamed describes the first time he “applied therapeutic masturbation” to his son. He claims that his son’s body managed to “succumb through orgasm,” which indicated his “enjoyment” of the masturbation. Mahamed claims that his son was able to show a “positive acceptance of the therapeutic masturbation.”
It felt completely natural as I already had a deep sense of intimacy with my son’s body through the process of massaging him, bathing him, changing his diapers and cleaning and touching his genitals and other private parts.
Shockingly, Mahamed admits that professionals referred to persons with PIMD who could not understand or provide consent only in the context of parents sexually abusing their disabled children. However, Mahamed argues that he is not sexually abusing Mustafa. He is performing a “medical treatment,” not a sexual act.
I am in complete agreement with the ethics and laws to protect profoundly disabled persons from sexual abuse but I would defend my action by stating that the therapeutic masturbation I am providing to my son is, by definition, not a sexual act but a medical treatment and would fall under the contentious ethical issue of the rights of parents to provide medical treatment to a person who cannot understand or provide consent.
Mahamed claims that he first began trying to go public with his story in 2007 through various blogs and outlets, butt his blogs kept being removed from the Internet, for very clear reasons.
In February of 2016, Marlene de Beer put together a special journal for Academia.edu titled, “Paternal therapeutic masturbation of a disabled son and a sexual assistance campaign.” At this time, that journal is still under review but can be read in full below.Paternal_therapeutic_masturbation_of_a_d
Mahamed’s story is one that appears to hide the act of sexual abuse behind a distorted belief that he is doing a good deed. With Mastafa’s below poor level of comprehension, it is incredibly worrying that Mahamed would claim to see acceptance and enjoyment from what the common and legal world would view as sexual assault.
The Daily Haze reached out to Mahamed for comment, but had not received anything at the time of this article.